My Voice Feels Trapped
Is your voice locked in a room – somewhere deep inside of you? More than locked, it can feel like there are no doors or windows in this room and that your voice will never be allowed to break free. The voice is apparently inaccessible. But is it really locked?
And yet, you have to sing. Something else inside of you needs to sing to express yourself, to feel powerful and happy and free.
I often hear private students make statements like this…
“I can’t find my voice and I don’t even know how to start looking. I feel like it’s trapped in a room somewhere.”
How sad to feel that way. How wonderful though when you realize that you feel that way about your voice. Wonderful because if you can feel it, you can fix it.
You are not alone. I’m going to tell you about 2 of my private students who suffer from these same feelings.
First, is a student who is a fierce and confident dancer. She’s insanely good! She’s been on national TV many times and teaches dance all over the world. This woman is also a very good singer and songwriter.
So as her voice teacher I asked her to get into her dancer character to do the lesson to give her that same fierce confidence. Her reaction really surprised me. She became, for the first time in my association with her, shy and embarrassed.
What??? You dance as this fierce, confident character but don’t allow yourself to use that same star quality to sing? Curious. She has not claimed her power as a singer.
That’s how deeply personal singing is to the singer. It also illustrates the many beliefs about expressing yourself that you may not be aware of at all.
This is also why people love to listen to singing. Singing communicates the deepest emotions. Singing expresses Truth. And when your singing voice is free it’s the best feeling in the world!
Another private student tells me that he feels like his voice is trapped in a “room” deep inside. Somehow he has come to believe that he’s “not allowed” to access his brilliant natural voice.
Borrowing a concept from new thought leader Marianne Williamson, you may ask…
“Who am I to claim my power as a singer?”
That’s not the question.
The question is, “Who are you not to claim the power of your natural talent? Who are you to not develop and share this vocal gift?”
Diminishing yourself, diminishing your musical gift does not serve anyone. In fact, it robs you and all who love to listen to you of the pleasure.
Overcoming a trapped voice
How do you overcome the habit of keeping your voice trapped?
- Watch your thoughts about your voice. Your thoughts a powerful force that cause a response in your physical body – your instrument. (Read more…)
- Figure out where your voice is trapped. Breathe into that spot to open the door to freedom. (Read more…)
- Get vocal training with a knowledgeable voice teacher.
- Create a character who is a fabulous, confident singer. See yourself as that character. Become that character to learn exactly what it feels like to be a confident singer.
- When you sing, check out how it feels to sing as your fierce, confident character.
- Practice, practice, practice!
I love what I do every day – empowering the voices of singers worldwide. When a student tells me that I have helped them set their voice free, that I gave them the key to unlock their voice, that’s the biggest thrill for me.
I remember what it felt like when my own voice was trapped inside and I did not know how to set it free. That’s why I developed Sing Like You Speak™. And it’s very gratifying to witness how the Sing Like You Speak™ technique and my teaching is setting voices free all over the world!
Join us on the road to vocal freedom!
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BIO
Sally Morgan, NYC voice teacher, wrote the book on contemporary vocal technique — literally. Sing Like You Speak™ is specifically designed to restore the effortless vocal production that is natural to the human instrument making your singing powerful, joyful and free. Sally has been successfully teaching people how to sing for more than 35 years.
Sally has helped her clients heal vocal damage, expand vocal range, land a Broadway show, record their original music and tour internationally without vocal fatigue or strain. Besides teaching workshops Sally teaches private voice lessons and has developed online singing lessons – Sing Like You Speak™ Academy.
You can see and hear some of Sally’s clients on Broadway stages, Off-Broadway, in Musical Theater – Regional, on Major Label Recordings, the Conan O’Brian show, A Prairie Home Companion and in Federal Courts, the PA House of Representatives, and the U.S. Senate.
Sally teaches singing voice lessons in NYC and worldwide on videoconference. Online voice lessons
Sally says
Hi,
Thanks for your very honest comment. You may notice that in the article I speak from personal experience with the feeling of a voice trapped inside of me. I had siblings who teased me unmercifully and parents who told me I’d never make a living and never get married and have a family if I insisted on being a musician. They were wrong!!! And your cousins are wrong too. The shame is theirs not yours.
This is my story.
At the age of 5 or 6 years I had a recurring dream. In the dream I was kidnapped by a man and throw into the back seat of a car.
The man sped away from the curb just as I managed to roll down the window enough to turn my head sideways to shout for help.
I took a deep breath and tried to shout, “Help!” but no sound comes out. I tried again and again to find my voice, make myself heard by someone, anyone. But no sound came out.
I was whisked away by the kidnapper to whatever fate he had in mind – because I couldn’t find my voice even to save my own life.
So my life has been about studying, experimenting, teaching and performing to find the answers I now teach to my Sing Like You Speak® students. Keep singing. Study and learn as much as you can about your voice. Keep your focus on the process of singing and not on what others might think or say.
Sign up for the free lessons here on my site https://singlikeyouspeak.com and take a look also at my youtube channel – singlikeyouspeak. Stay in touch!
breathe,
Sally
Anonymous for now says
I feel like Ariel when Ursula took her voice
Anonymous for now says
Since I was a little girl I have loved music and knew it was what I want to do. It all started when I was in second grade and a musician came to my class and played a song on the piano and sang. Music has a special place in my heart and I feel so passionate about it- I am always singing in my head and when I’m on my own. I used to sing freely when I was younger- I would have little competitions with my cousins and I obviously had the better voice. My cousins always taunted me and told me I was trying to hard. Since then I feel like that statement has stuck with me- I am 18 years old now. I live with my cousins and I just feel so ashamed for wanting to sing all the time especially because they would call me annoying for singing all the time. I have not developed my singing voice like I know I could- I feel like it’s trapped and my soul just want to let it out I know I can be great but I don’t know how to exactly I feel so embarrassed and get all this anxiety.