Make Love to Your Song

Do you make love to your songs? Do you feel them deeply in your body and in your heart? Do you bring your songs to life and feel totally satisfied after your performance?

You make love to your song when you sing with a deep physical and emotional connection to the music and lyrics.

It’s not about sex, it’s about intimacy. It’s about fun!

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve stopped a student in mid-lesson to ask, “Are you having any fun? Why are you doing this if it’s not fun? Singing is so much fun when you can let yourself go.”

The response is usually, “Oh, that’s right, I forgot to have fun. I just want to get it right.”

Is that what you say when you’re making love? Do you forget to have fun? Are you all in your head and not aware of your body and your emotions? I certainly hope not!

You make love to your songs when you sing with a deep physical and emotional connection to the music and lyrics. And this makes sense because your physical body is your singing instrument. The body is also where your emotions live and find expression.

Your intimate relationship with the song is how your audience connects to you and the song. This is why fans fall in love with singers! As you make love to the song, you are sharing that love with the audience.

Your physical body is your singing instrument and where your emotions live and find expression. Singing has the power to communicate and form a bond with others. Every good performer knows this and creates community and connection with their audience.  

Do you know what stops you from getting intimate with your songs?

My struggle

Recently I was struggling to memorize a new song. Not a problem I normally experience so I knew something was in the way of my intimacy with the song.

I love the song so that wasn’t the barrier. Logical flow of the lyrics and form of the music is my usual way to memorize. What is the story, what is the musical form, what is my point of view in relation to the song, etc. None of my usual techniques were helping.

Finally, I realized I didn’t want to connect to the song. I was afraid.

But I kept at it, singing the song and going deeper and deeper into my instrument – getting out of my head and into my body. After about 2 hours the song revealed its’ meaning to me as I accepted what the lyrics were saying to me about my life experience.

Frightened and alone, finding my way

This song, it turns out, is a prayer. A desperate cry for help from a frightened young girl (Mary) who finds herself in a situation she does not understand or feel capable of fulfilling what is expected of her. Frightened and alone, she prays she can hold it together.

The song brought up those same feelings in me of fear and aloneness and falling apart. Perseverance to figure out the song’s special meaning to me also healed a part of me.

When I performed the song, there was not a dry eye in the house. That was not my goal, it was the result of my deep physical and emotional connection to the song.

After the performance a woman said to me, “Love to hear you sing. Your voice is beautiful and there’s something more. I feel joy when you sing!” Giving my audience a joyful experience is worth the journey through the pain to a place of peace.

You too can make love to a song…

Making love to your song is a sensual experience. You feel it with your body and your heart. Involve all of you. Throw aside having to be perfect to sing. When you throw that off, there’s room within you, letting go of one thing leaves room for another, to find the connection to your instrument, your body. 

When you make love, you are completely connected to what is happening in your body. Yes? And you are aware of the warm emotions for yourself and your lover. Imagine how it feels to make love. Hold that feeling in your body and mind. Create a sense memory for that feeling so your senses can recall the feeling when you sing.

•	Use your sense memory to awaken your body and heart
•	Feel the space within when you stop beating up on yourself 
•	Crawl right in there with your awareness
•	Feel the depth of your instrument and the luscious freedom of love making
•	Now say the lyrics from the depth of your instrument
•	Relate the lyrics to your life experience 
•	Sing the song keeping the connection to your sensual self

Now the song is uniquely yours!

Do you make love to your songs?

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